Falling into a relationship rut is done easily and quietly if you are not paying attention. Which is one of the reasons it happens in the first place. Just whose responsibility is it to pull you out of the rut? Yours? His? I think if you want to see change in your relationship it needs to start with you…after all you are the one who thinks you have fallen into a rut. (He just may not think so) I believe that if you do what you need to in order to take care of “your side of the street” so to speak, then he will have no choice but to follow you. I myself think one of the most important things women can do to stay out of the danger zone is to make sure they are taking care of themselves. I know most women put kids, husband and job needs first…but I actually believe you need to be in a good place before you can give anything of yourself. If you are depleted what are you giving to your spouse? A watered down version of love? Not Good! So many answers to our dilemmas are simple if we would just stop a minute and listen to our common sense. I found an article with some good ideas on keeping it exciting, check it out. Oh, I forgot to mention…It takes some work, time and effort to keep it going strong. In closing, it is also not to say that you are unhappy or that your relationship isn’t working. It just means you want to pump up the excitement factor.
What’s to blame for the rut? “A lack of effort and the pressures of daily life,” explains marital therapist Stephen J. Betchen, a marriage and family therapist who has a doctorate in social work, and the author of Magnetic Partners. “Many married couples stop doing the hard work that it takes to keep a relationship exciting. Instead, they put their energy into raising kids, running the house and succeeding in their careers.”
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